How to Find Your True Self Again
On the surface, it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are. But from the time we can talk, we’re being programmed to “fit in”. We find ourselves conforming in order to please the people we love, and who love us.
But sometimes that means that you have to suppress what you know is the real person inside.
And yet, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else.
If you’re ready to get reacquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while – yourself – start with these 4 ideas to help you rediscover the real you.
Quiet The Noises In Your Head
The voices we hear inside our heads can be overwhelming at times, especially when they are urging us to attend to multiple responsibilities and tasks simultaneously. These voices can distract us from our inner voice, which is the one that helps us connect with our true selves. To hear our inner voice, it is essential to silence the noise from these other voices.
To do this, we must create systems that help us simplify our lives and establish routines that streamline our daily activities. By doing this, we can avoid getting bogged down by the constant pressures and demands of daily life. Simplifying our lives allows us to free up mental space and energy, which we can then devote to discovering our true selves.
In addition to setting up systems, it is important to establish an abundance mindset. When we operate from a position of scarcity, we tend to focus on the things we lack rather than the things we have. This can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety, making it even harder to hear our inner voice. By contrast, when we focus on abundance, we recognize the good things in our lives, and this creates a positive cycle that fuels our self-discovery journey.
Practice Thinking About Yourself In a Healthy Way
To have a healthy relationship with ourselves, it is essential to think positively about ourselves. This means believing in one's value and recognizing that their true self has something unique to offer the world. Since we talk to ourselves more than anyone else in our lives, it is crucial to establish healthy communication in our thinking. To achieve this, we must pay attention to how we talk to ourselves, challenge negative thoughts, and replace them with facts.
One way to practice healthy self-talk is to be conscious of the language we use when we talk to ourselves. We can write down the unhealthy things we say to ourselves and challenge them with rational responses. For instance, if we tell ourselves, "You never do anything right," we can challenge that thought by listing examples of things we did well in the past and acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes. Instead of beating ourselves up over a mistake, we can learn from it and use the experience to improve and grow.
By practicing positive self-talk, we can start to believe in ourselves, develop confidence and self-esteem, and cultivate a more positive outlook on life. This can also lead to better mental health and a greater sense of well-being. It is important to remember that self-improvement and self-discovery are ongoing journeys and that developing a healthy relationship with oneself is a process that takes time, effort, and patience.
Listen to Your Heart
As we grow older, we tend to rely more on our rational minds and less on our intuition or inner voice. We become more analytical and logical, and less in touch with our emotions and what truly matters to us. To reconnect with our true selves, we must listen to our hearts and integrate our emotional and rational selves.
It is essential to learn how to identify and acknowledge our emotions and to allow ourselves to feel them fully. This means taking the time to sit with our emotions and explore why they are present. Instead of just thinking about how we feel about something, we should ask ourselves why it is important to us. This will help us to uncover the underlying beliefs and values that are driving our emotions.
For example, if we feel sad or frustrated about a situation at work, we should take the time to explore why it is bothering us. Is it because we feel undervalued or unappreciated? Is it because we disagree with the way things are being done? By understanding the underlying reasons for our emotions, we can begin to take steps toward addressing them and finding solutions that are in alignment with our values and beliefs.
Listening to our hearts and connecting with our emotions is not always easy. It can be uncomfortable to confront our feelings and explore the reasons behind them. However, it is essential to our personal growth and self-discovery. By reconnecting with our true selves and understanding what truly matters to us, we can make more authentic choices and live a more fulfilling life.
Be Careful Not to Get Hung Up on a Specific Goal
Often, when we set goals for ourselves, we focus on tangible things such as a promotion at work, a new car, or a romantic partner. However, what we are truly seeking is the feeling that we believe these things will bring us, such as respect, love, or appreciation. It is important to recognize that these feelings are the ultimate goal and to keep an open mind about the methods we use to achieve them.
We must not only identify our goals but also explore how they align with our values and who we are as individuals. We need to be honest with ourselves about what truly makes us happy and fulfilled. By doing so, we can remove the mask we may be wearing and allow our true selves to shine through.
When we accept our true selves and align our goals with our values, we make smarter choices that are more likely to stick. We are more motivated and invested in achieving our goals because they are in alignment with who we are as individuals. We can let go of the pressure to conform to external expectations and focus on what truly matters to us.
Ultimately, the person we need to know and love first is ourselves. When we take the time to listen, understand, and accept our true selves, we can live a more authentic and fulfilling life. We can make choices that align with our values and bring us the feelings we are truly seeking. This is what we are really looking for, and it is within our reach if we are willing to take the time to connect with our true selves.
When you accept your True Self again, you'll make smarter choices, and those choices will stick because they actually fit who you are. Now, that's what you're really looking for, isn't it?